How To Mind Your Business
You want a hot body? You want a Bugatti?
You want a Maserati? You better work bitch.
You want a Lamborghini? Sippin' martinis?
Look hot in a bikini? You better work bitch.
You wanna live fancy? Live in a big mansion?
Party in France?
You better work bitch, you better work bitch. - Britney Spears
Who doesn’t love a bit of Britney motivation on this rather dreary Monday?! And for as silly as that song sounds, never was a truer word spoken, am I right?
If that isn’t enough of a kick up the bum for the rest of the week, I have the best Twitter thread that perfectly sums up where my mind is at the moment. With winter days upon us and the end of the year looming, I’m trying to keep my head down and focus on my hustle (as mentioned here). My whole mantra of late has been centred around getting my shit together and as such, I’m spending more days locked down in front of my laptop, trying to get on with work. If my outfit is anything to go by, it's looking like I mean serious business, am I right?!
Yet one way or another, I surprise myself with new and imaginative methods of distracting myself. Over the last two weeks, it’s been all about researching other people I admire - stalking those of a similar age, tracking their accomplishments, checking their follower counts, etc... I fool myself that it is research for inspiration or whatever, but it’s really just a way to justify the act of comparing myself. I know not to do - we all know not to do it - but like an addict to self-deprecation, I’ve relapsed and slipped down that rabbit hole once again.
It starts so innocently and then before you know it, I’m questioning my whole life. I work hard too, so why am I not sitting on a beach, drinking martinis and looking hot in a bikini, dammit?! If you don’t get your mind trained in the right way, thoughts like that can very quickly demotivate you from doing what you need to.
Something that has helped me bounce back super quick from any self-pity parties is this twitter thread on minding your own business when it comes to working. It’s a must read!
Essentially, it’s a reminder that your only business is to do your job, whether it’s writing, blogging or whatever. Comparing yourself to others, stressing over social media engagement, worrying about the future, all that is not your business right now. I'm trying to restructure my thinking along the lines of "everything outside of the task at hand for today or this present moment is not my job right now, therefore is a waste of time". I focus on that one thing, and that alone until it's done.
Stay in your lane. Mind your business. Do the work. It’s that simple.
It might sound like common sense but it's surprising how quickly we can lose sight of what we are really meant to be doing. It's like a mindfulness task - that every time I get distracted by anything going on in the periphery, I have to bring myself back to the task at hand. The more I practice that, the stronger my focus is. So, be so consumed by your own projects and goals that you have no time to watch anyone else’s movements, because really and truly it’s not any of your damn business.